Is a happy marriage possible? How would you respond to the question, “Would you want a happy marriage?” I am sure irrespective of the age, gender, background or financial muscle, the majority answer would be a resounding “Yes!
Sadly, many have neglected the attention marriage deserves. Yet many desire a happy and successful marriage, which has remained elusive, without inputting the ingredients required for it to work out.
In This second part of the article “Revealed! secrets To A Happy Marriage”,the following are helpful and practical points for those who desire to develop a happy marriage.
100% Concept: Most couples begin marriage with the concept of each contributing 50%. Even those that have spent years in marriage also fall into this category. But would a small business be successful if each partner gave only a 50% effort? Whether it is a business or marriage, a 50/50 venture will fail. A successful marriage Should be based on both husband and wife putting all their effort into the relationship-each giving 100%! This is one of the best means of building a happy marriage.
No interference concept: Marriage is meant to be between the husband and wife, and no one else. Yet some, bring other family members into the marriage. Some choose to live at home with in-laws to save money. Others bring overbearing parents into marital matters. In either case, this can cause problems for any marriage. Both husband and wife must be completely focused on each other, building together a happy home.
Cooperation Concept: Husbands and wives are expected to cooperate in all aspects of marriage to be a leading light to the children. In a relay race, each leg must depend on the other to successfully perform their routine with each having a clearly defined move to assist in achieving victory. One must lead and one must follow. If one runner changes midstream, the routine will end in disaster. Likewise, marriage has visibly defined roles. If these are not followed, the marriage will experience hardship-and most likely end in failure.
Leadership Concept: Every marriage must have a leader, and this is the husband’s responsibility. This does not mean the husband is better than the wife, or that the wife is inferior. This role does not entitle him to rule his family like a dictator. On the other hand, his leadership role is not a minor formality. God created the institution of marriage in a specific way, with strengths and skills that fit this structure endowed to both sexes. Real leaders make every effort to allow those under them to flourish.
Roles Concept: What is the husbands responsibility to his wife? He gives himself to his wife, loves her and ensures that most of her needs are provided within the husbands ability. This gives his wife the comfort and confidence that strengthens the entire relationship. By way of subtle encouragement, support and teaching, the husband will take the time to help his wife succeed.
Wives also have a vital role. They build and support the family in a variety of important ways. But because of the madness for independence and liberation, most do not understand the scope of the wife’s role that a woman who is the ultimate help-mate. One who supports her husband and children. She shows sound judgment and cares for the family.She is a hard worker and frugal managing the family’s finances well, under the husband’s guidance; she strives for quality.
Will you pursue endless pleasure at the detriment of happiness in your home? You need to work out a way of happiness for your family. You can experience happiness in your marriage.