There are many keys to happy marriages, but one of the most important of these is unconditional love. Without it, nagging, complaining, and criticism will sneak in, and can ultimately destroy your marriage. But what is it, and how do you show it in marriage?
Unconditional love is loving someone always, without conditions. For example loving them even when they gain weight, go bald, and are snoring in their easy chair. It is basing your love on something more than the outward appearance, or the amount of money they make, or the gifts they give you. It is also loving them even when they have a bad day and come home grouchy. It is loving them even when you have a bad day, come home grouchy, and they don’t seem to show compassion.
That leads to my next point. Unconditional love is what you feel for them and is not based on how much they love you. It is not about how you are treated, but how you treat your spouse. It is having patience with their imperfections, and loving them anyway. Please take notice of the words loving them, and understand I am not implying that you have to love the imperfection. Unconditional love focuses on the person, not the behavior. By loving them unconditionally it allows them to love you unconditionally.
Unconditional love creates happy marriages because it allows for a safe environment to be created. When a person feels safe they feel happy and secure. Imagine a marriage where you felt safe. Where you knew you were loved even when you made mistakes, or had a bad day. How does that feel. But to receive that you must first give it.
Is it going to be easy? It may or may not be easy. Much of that depends on you and your willingness to learn, grow, and change. Only you can decide if it is important enough to your marriage and it’s happiness.